Kathy Bates is coming out against what has been assumed the mandatory position on the #MeToo movement.
The four-time nominee and one-time Oscar winner isn’t assigning blame, excusing or justifying anyone’s experience or behavior.
She’s simply saying:
“In my day, if you went up to a guy’s hotel room, you knew exactly why you were going and in those days it was consensual.”
In not so many words she suggests not all women are innocent victims who’s only mistake was trusting someone to follow through on a promise.
All people lie and some just make bad decisions and just may not be comfortable taking responsibility for them.
Feminist writer Germaine Greer echoes Kathy Bates and goes a little bit further by suggesting:
“What makes it different is when the man has economic power, as Harvey Weinstein has. But if you spread your legs because he said ‘be nice to me and I’ll give you a job in a movie’ then I’m afraid that’s tantamount to consent, and it’s too late now to start whingeing about that.”
Now it is we take the time to denounce inequality and its causes.
We all respectfully, and for many reasons, love the ladies and — with appropriate consent — enjoy how they rev our engines
But, we also are uncomfortable with the modern equation where men = bad and women = good, instead preferring to judge based on individual merit and mostly as they pertain to their contributions to film and any other related aspects of entertainment.
Accountability is too often expected from the accused which isn’t fair nor is it justice.
It remains prudent to openly examine both sides of a situation with the sole interest of finding the truth.
Mistakes are made. Lives get ruined but until people are able to fully understand how the situations occur we all remain vulnerable to would-be accusers and accused alike.
Kathy Bates sums it up nicely:
“Times were different, but I really support the women who are coming forward now and I’m not happy about the men who are being accused falsely – but the ones who deserve all they’re getting, my feeling is hey, go for it.”
Interestingly, so far no powerful lesbians have been publicly shamed.
What are the odds of that?